Tuesday, September 30, 2008

the chinese secret service boy - part 2

Yes, most crazy stories have a follow-up in bangkokbitch's life and I guess that's what makes being bangkokbitch an interesting, exciting, amazing, exhausting journey. And that is also the reason why I am sharing my stories with you.

The chinese secret service boy offered to meet me again yesterday. I sent him an sms but he wasnt available for dinner as he was out with friends. Bugger, I thought. At 7.30 however he was already at the university to pick me up. That didnt take him long and I wasnt even half-way through my Chinese take-away dinner. I rushed out and met him again. I was all in black except a white shirt (it was too cold to show off the shirt however) and he was wearing jeans and a zip sweater that showed off his really skinny figure. The chinese secret service boy said that he is cold. My solution would have been to give him a hug - his was to go to the cinema. We were meant to watch the movie eagle something by Steven Spielberg. I didnt comment much but inside I thought - oh no. Then we had a coffee at the cafe opposite of the theatre because we were 1.5 hours too early. On the way there a middle-aged farang man was patting the chinese secret service boy's shoulder, saying: "are you behaving?" It was his boss and the chinese secret service boy was quite distressed.


One thing I can not stand about the chinese secret service boy is that he watches f*cking everyone. Not just guys but simply everyone. This man is used to observing people and hides it very badly though. I got really pissed off when he mumbled to himself - "wow that guy". For the next 40 minutes or so I was being bangkokbitch and provoked and disagreed with him whenever and wherever I could. Then his charm took me over again and we went to the theatre. I went to the toilet and he followed me. I normally go to the cubicles because I cant p*ss next to guys I like. We looked at each other, and I went into the cubicle and he was a bit surprised. In the theatre there were a few awkward moments of nearly holding each other. During the movie (which was about spies funnily) I knew I had to tell him about what I feel for him. I couldnt lose anything. So I told him that I hadnt liked anyone like this for a very long time. He agreed and said he knew that and he would enjoy the time with me very much everytime. Arrived at my flat he parked the car and we talked at length about the situation. I said that I just wanted to be really close to him and that's it's not about the sex. He said that if we'd let it go further then he'd be sad for months to come and that it would be impractical to have a long-distance relationship. There was the r-word. I hadnt even thought of it. He also mentioned the l-word. Goodness, his attitude, his manners, his being "anal" about so many things (not sexually please), it really doesnt comply with me in so many ways yet I really fell for this guy.

He held my shoulder and stroke the back of my head softly. A minute later I was out in the dark - alone.
He sent me an sms:
"Dont think too much about it:) sleep well."
I sent one back:
"It's the only thing I am thinking about right now. I just want to give you a hug"

He:
"I just got home now. I love hugging too. We will do that next time:)."

Dear readers of this blog, I really want to know your opinion on this. Is he doing this really for the reason he is telling me or could this be some kind of rule that he is not allowed to sleep with anyone in his position. He did tell me he got laid (only) twice in this 9 months here in the city. But that might have been at the other person's place...I have the feeling there will be a "chinese secret service boy - part 3 and maybe even 4"....goodness...

9 comments:

bkkdreamer said...

I am not an expert in dating Asians, as I have only ever gone out with Thais, and one Vietnamese living in Thailand.

But if the Chinese secret service boy is talking about the dreaded L and R word on your second date then perhaps he is inexperienced.

I agree, his habit of openly admiring other guys is gross - who does he think he's with, his country-bumpkin cousin?

As for the advice, I would carry on seeing him, but if someone else comes along between now and Tuesday, then send Mr Secret Service another SMS.

Tell him you have spotted a really nice guy in the crowd, and are in the process of getting to know him better. Then he can send his sleuths out to investigate.

BB said...

thanks for the comment bkkdreamer. sorry about the L and R word confusion. he thought i am after the R and was talking serious about it like. "it's difficult to be together because of the distance". He also said something about being in L after meeting twice...i wouldnt say I am in L - yet.
and he is a city boy from a rich family, no country bumpkin there. and he's only been here for 9 months - no sleuths around. but he likes to hang out in the city gay disco on saturdays and that is both weird AND disgusting. "just for the fun of enjoying"

TAO said...

Ah, life is short and you are only visiting....

If I were you I would jump on top of this one and ride it for all it was worth....

You both want it so take charge....

Anonymous said...

Long distance relationships are extremely difficult to maintain unless you know that one day you will live in his country or he in yours. As you hardly know him...
Lust or Love, easy to mix them up but after such a short time, maybe its just the first one. As Tao said, life is short so either kiss him and see what happens or you'll spend forever wondering what if. - Ian

BB said...

again, tao and ian, thanks for your comments my loyal readers. for me it's not about jumping him or being his boyfriend. i dont think there will be part 3 since I am sick of this story just now.

TAO said...

Oh, BB....

Don't leave us like this!

Follow through and sacrifice your own feelings for your loyal readers!

BB said...

indeed. the 3 loyal readers have deserved that:) he said something about dinner tomorrow and on sunday we were supposed to go on a trip. but who knows. me being the bitch i am hung up on him:P

Christian said...

Can you enlighten me what the l- and the r-word are? The l-word is obvious: love. But I've no idea what the r-word is.

BB said...

r=relationship