Friday, December 5, 2008

the viciousness of thai gays

today I really got some attitude from thai gays for having a boyfriend. normally, they will ask straight away: "is he Thai?" Then, of course I say "no, he is not". To this answer, many seem to be quite relieved. I wouldnt know what would happen if he were thai. I shall try it the next time. I will invent a boyfriend from the countryside and lets see what they say.
anyway, two guys today werent happy at all.
typically for thais, they rarely rarely talked to me. I havent met both. one guy is from ayutthaya and sometimes calls me (about once every month). He's smart and I always had good conversations with him. however, the fact that we never met and that he never told me when he is in bangkok suggested to me that he is not so interested. I was a bit but forgot about him because he was hardly in bangkok anyway.
I told him that I have a boyfriend today. He said that he is really really sad and angry and that he needs some time for himself now. and he left MSN. gosh what a drama. I havent even met him!!!
the second guy is from some middle-class chinese-thai family. he lives near my home but we never met. two weeks ago he asked whether he can live at my home since he is having an argument with his brother. i declined of course. it's ridiculous that someone can live here that I have never met. today i told him that he knows my boyfriend (they chat very rarely). then he went kinda crazy. he said he has no people with boyfriends in his list and that I should check whether we are really boyfriends. how rude, I know my bf for 3 years and see him practically every day and this little sh*t suggests we might not be boyfriends. get a life! then he said that I am dumb and stupid. then he really really wanted to know who my bf is. i said: you deleted me from your list so why are you interested in me? he said: i am not interested in you. i said: then stop talking. wonderful, what a drama. it is still going on as I am writing.

Wow what fierceness. how come people suddenly have so much energy to write when we could hardly get further than: hello how are you? fine, you?

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

With an attitude like that, they will remain single for a long time. - Ian

joey said...

funny u should say so. they are not an expressive lot like we are but they sorta expect us to understand whats in their mind... haha, i get this always from my thai bf...

rubberball said...

"two weeks ago he asked whether he can live at my home since he is having an argument with his brother. i declined of course."

yeah, that's the right thing to do. can't really trust no people these days, especially the strangers.
i'm on the opposite side from you. i'm thai and got called of by a farang guy whom i planned a date with. two hours before the actual date. what a dork.

BB said...

hello rubberball. wonderful to hear from "the other side". but dont say it like that. if i'd go back to my "home country" i would do many things "the thai way". so we seem to have the same problems ey. these days people keep their options open, literally until the last minute. i have been ditched SO MANY TIMES. i learned that you can only believe it when you see it...it's sad but true.
btw. nice to see a new blog from a thai. i'll read it:)

BB said...

joey: that's not the problem here. i do struggle sometimes with the non-expressiveness. but gnerally I can guess what's going on. but i didnt know that someone can be so disinterested and passive and then become so vicious when "tickled".

joey said...

hell hath no fury like a woman scorned... that would best describe the sudden outblow from the thai. seriously, how are we supposed to know what goes on in their mind? they are wonderful people but i just guess i need to be extremely patient with them, esp the bf. i even thought of moving the LOS because of the bf... what do u think?

BB said...

hell hath no fury like a woman scorned... that would best describe the sudden outblow from the thai. seriously, how are we supposed to know what goes on in their mind? they are wonderful people but i just guess i need to be extremely patient with them, esp the bf. i even thought of moving the LOS because of the bf... what do u think?

joey. i dont think it's THAT hard figuring out what "they" think. but it's not easy. sometimes even my thai friends are at a loss to know what their other thai friend is thinking and how to approach sensitive topics. be patient AND tolerant. I am not so good in both of these two:)
about moving here for the boyfriend. well that depends on a whole lot of things. how long you know him? how much you trust him? have you been here? where does he live? what do you want to do here? can you handle the "views" in Thailand? I personally do not know (yet) of any Thai-Farang gay relationship that works (in the way I picture a relationship). you can leave your email if you wish, maybe I can help you.
bb

aurix said...

wait.. if you haven't met them then how come they're on your contact list?

BB said...

aurix. they were just chatting friends. even though i had a good opinion of both guys somehow we never got to meet.